I am somebody who has a view into both the black and white world. My parents married in the sixties when it was illegal in many states for a black and white couple to marry. I have been subject to racism my whole life, as well as having a lot of privilege. I’ve seen what it's like to go to restaurants and stores with my white family, and then go to the same restaurants and stores with my black family and be treated completely differently. If you know me at all, you know I desire for every person to live together in harmony, peace and love. The truth is that conflict not addressed but simply glossed over will never truly bring peace. However, conflict resolution and reconciliation will bring peace and harmony.
Reconciliation is not assimilation. Following Apartheid South Africa held truth and reconciliation courts. In one case a white South Afrikaner admitted to killing a black woman's husband and son. He asked her for forgiveness and how he could possibly reconcile things. She said that he had to come on Sundays and be her son and let her cook for him. The response from the woman didn’t happen because she was told to get over it and assimilate.
I hear good people saying ‘all lives matter.’ The truth is once a person says all lives matter, they have shut down a conversation that could lead to healing and reconciliation. I suggest to a person who truly wants Christ-like reconciliation that instead of shutting down conversations from POC, they would just simply listen. I suggest they could just simply hear someone’s stories of trauma without judgement and without telling them how to respond. Who knows, perhaps in that moment of genuine listening and intentional hearing, there could be healing. And when there is true healing the door is open for genuine reconciliation.