We have to stick together, ladies. There are too many things in this world trying to pull us apart right now. We need to have each other’s backs instead of throwing stones at them and talking behind them.
Turning on one another is a learned behavior based upon lies that we’ve believed from unreliable sources like reality tv stars and tabloid journalists. You know they get paid to be dramatic and catty, right? Sales over souls should be the motto of this day and age.
Let’s stop pointing fingers at the mama in the grocery store with a screaming baby on her hip and a toddler running down the aisles. She needs a reassuring smile. She needs to know that it gets better. That you’ve been there and it’s ok to admit that those sweet little bundles are driving her crazy. Maybe she needs someone to come alongside her and offer to give her a kid-free afternoon so she can catch up on the Zzzz’s she’s undoubtedly lost.
Can we all just take a moment and address the elephant in the room? Friendships are hard. They require work and commitment and loyalty and grace. For ourselves and for the woman across from you on the computer, at the dinner table, or in the gym. Why don’t we offer more understanding for the changing seasons we are each individually called to navigate instead of doling out advice or judgement? I want a friend who sees past my decisions, be they good or bad, and gets to know my heart. A woman who calls out my potential despite my problems. Don’t you?
What about the teenage girls running around looking for love in all the wrong places? Can we, first of all, put ourselves in their place for a minute? We were 17 once (man, it feels like forever ago!) Do you remember hormones and dates and bullies and body odor? The young girls of today have way more pressure and temptation to deal with DAILY then we ever did. They need the older women among us to show them that loving themselves because God loves them is more momentous than letting their boyfriends love them from 1st base all the way to home plate. Can I get an Amen??!!
It’s high time we joined together instead of facing off against each other. In one of Aesop’s Fables, titled “The Four Oxen and the Lion”, a short story of deep meaning is found. A lion prowls around a group of oxen for days and days with the intent to attack. Every time he tries to pounce, they group together by backing up against each other and facing out horns first in the lion’s direction. The lion can’t break through their wall of unity and backs off. A time comes, however, when the oxen begin to argue. They each leave the pack and go off on their own due to their disagreements. The lion is then able to charge each of them separately and take them as his prey.
Pretty devastating consequences for a little scuffle between friends, isn’t it? That’s the point. Aesop clinches his tale with this winner of a phrase: “United we stand, divided we fall.”
The days we are living in are brutal. Our minds, bodies, and souls are literally taking blows from a variety of sources on a regular basis. Can we choose to look beyond a woman’s mistakes or opinions long enough to realize that God never called her to figure this life thing out on her own? In fact, none of us were called to be alone. It’s time for the collective voice of women to rise up over the nagging insecurities and questionable choices that plague each of us behind closed doors.
It’s time to start defending and stop offending. Let’s stand back-to-back ready to fight off anything that threatens our unity. Sisterhood is worth the fight.
by Harmony Vuycankiat
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